When I reflect on what I perceive to be the most ‘stressful’ periods in my life, I can see it was the life situations where fear took over and I was robbed of my ability to think I could handle the situation.
The consequence of doubting my ability to handle ‘it’ meant I didn’t take action to change the thing which was causing me emotional turmoil.
When we doubt ourselves, we lose our confidence, move into fear, and stay stuck feeling helpless and hopeless. We forget about our courage which can be utilised at any time to help us become unstuck.
Sometimes people trigger our fear which means people are confidence burglars:
Confidence burglars can be:
- Partners who are more concerned about themselves than you
- Bosses who criticise and condemn, rather than inspire and mentor
- Colleagues who compare and compete rather than support and encourage
- Organisational policies and procedures which restrict you rather than grow you
- Redundancy and downsizing which are more about money than humanity
- Family and friends who are fearful rather than fearless
To help improve your confidence, complete the following journal prompts.
Journal Prompts
- Who or what is making me doubt myself and my abilities?
- How have I taken their opinion as fact?
- How have I taken it personally rather than seeing the bigger picture?
- What action can I take to reclaim my power?
- How can I believe and trust in myself more?
When we are robbed of our power, it is easy to blame others for our problems.
However, you are stronger than you think, so take a breath, step back, and remember you can take back your power.
If you need help increasing your confidence, get in touch.