Have you ever had one of those days — when you realise that your life will never be the same again?
The days when someone just happens to say something to you, or something happens, and you say, “That’s it, I’m done.”
What I like to call — lightbulb moments.
Reading chapter four in the amazing book – Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway® by Dr. Susan Jeffers was one of my ‘lightbulb’ moments. The chapter discusses, how we hope someone will change, believing our life will then be happier.
It may be a colleague, a partner, our children, our boss.
We may hope they will be less grumpy, more loving, more helpful, more sincere, less sulky – I’m sure you get the idea!
However in reality, as this chapter points out, we have to be the one to take responsibility to change the situation.
We cannot and should not spend our life hoping and wishing that this person is going to change, because ‘newsflash’ – they may never change, and that means you are stuck.
If this is ringing a few bells with you, then please believe me when I say:
• You can be the one to change.
• You can be the one who says I have had enough of accepting this situation.
• You can be the one to remove yourself from the person or frustrating situation.
• You can be the one to change the way you perceive the situation if you think you cannot walk away
• You can be the one to explore how to remove yourself permanently from the situation.
One thing I have learned in my life is ‘You can do the thing you think you cannot handle’.
If you want to change and need help in taking your first step. Get in touch. I love helping people change.