It took me a long time to realise I was scared of having honest conversations.
I was a ‘SafeZone’ complainer. I would only complain to people who agreed with me, making me feel like I was right.
However one day, it dawned on me that I was complaining to the wrong person.
I would complain to colleagues at work instead of speaking to my manager.
I would complain to friends about my relationship instead of speaking to my partner.
I realised I was frightened about having honest conversations, scared of the possible consequences of:
- Facing anger, rejection, criticism, disapproval or sulking.
You name it, I was scared of emotional consequences. Instead, I had to learn to handle feeling all the above.
Remember the courageous one is the one who knows they can handle the outcome whatever happens.
If you need help having an honest conversation, please get in touch.